Part 2: How do we save Aboriginal people these days from self-pity?
- ‘erase the word self-pity from your mind’
- that there are reasons why Aboriginal Peoples feel the way they do
- it is often very difficult for Non-Aboriginal people to have empathy with Aboriginal Peoples because they have never experienced some of the issues and problems we Aboriginal people often have to face each day.
- also the first note highlighted that we Aboriginal people have only had relatively 42 years of freedom to develop freely again has a race and people, though we are fully aware that for every step forward we often take five steps back.
- whilst for some Christianity (or any religion for that matter) can be useful today it faithful followers need to be ever mindful that in the past religion was often used to oppress and strip away a great part of Aboriginal culture and identity.
By me saying all this let me make one thing very very clear – this does not mean that we Aboriginal people can then merely sit down on our backsides forever pointing our finger at the whitefellas and blaming them, for when we point our finger at them we must always remember that there are always three fingers pointing back out us.
How do we save people these days from self-pity and discouragement and suicide here in Port Augusta? It seems easy to blame others, but what can we do to change things?
How do we teach people to take some personal responsibility for their lot in life and how to encourage them to turn their lives around, especially those people who may be abusing substances or even contemplating suicide?
I like this quote:
I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
Personal Responsibility is acknowledging and accepting the fact that You, and only You, are the only one answerable to the outcome of Your life. Taking personal responsibility means to accept the consequences of Your life as a result of Your actions and inactions.
At the end of the day You are ultimately responsible for everything around You. You are in full control of what happens and what your reaction would be. There is no one to blame except for yourself.
The student answered:
“Bullshit. How am I supposed to be responsible for everything? What if you throw a book at me and I have to go to the hospital? How is being hit with a book my responsibility?”
The high-school philosophy teacher resonded with a grin and said:
“You should have moved”.
Some fall into bad behaviour by abusing drugs and alcohol to take away their pains and heartache but in the end such bad behaviour ultimately can lead to death and oblivion.
Others have come through stronger and more wiser from their many trials and tribulations and it is often only these Aboriginal People who can help other Aboriginal People to hopefully overcome their own trials and tribulations for they can truly have empathy for their Brothers and Sisters.
Some times we Aboriginal Peoples still often need the help, assistance, experience, knowledge and friendship of our Fellow White Australians to help us make it through, but that does not mean we should then sit idly by and let them do all the work – in fact we must be the ones to get up and lead the way for both our Aboriginal and non-Aboriginal Brothers and Sisters to follow.
We must take personal responsibility not only for ourselves; we must also take personal responsibility for our children/grand-children, our Familys, our Communities and any White Australian Brother and Sister who may want to help us .
Such personal responsibility is often hard work, with long hours and with limited rewards and recognition.
Some times you will be often knocked flat by the very People You are trying to help, by Your own Family and even white fellas – but never give up, when knocked flat to the ground, dust yourself off, pick yourself up from the ground, and go into the fray again and again.
But do not burn yourself out – always have an outlet and periods of rest and relaxation away from it all and recharge your batteries – for if you cannot look after yourself how can you ever hope to look after others…